How to Make a Man Cum Fast & Hard

Men are visual beings who get excited by what they see. So if you tease him a little bit as you undress, he will a have a raging boner by the time your last garment falls off.

Making him orgasm is even easier but you know how it is; men don’t want to cum quick. They will try to hold it in for longer if they can.

There are also men can go for more than 30 minutes without ejaculating. Which might be a problem for some women.

The female body requires lubrication and if it dries up, she starts feeling sore. The next step will either be to use the lube or try to make the man cum as fast as she can.

But at times, even the best lube might not help. I guess that’s why you’re here: looking for the best ways to make a man cum quickly. We don’t disappoint.

1. Understand His Sexual Response Cycle

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A man’s sexual response cycle begins with either physical or psychological stimulation or both. This excitement phase can last from minutes to hours, depending on the man and the particular stimulation.

Physical stimulation can be anything from kissing and caressing to direct stimulation of the genitals.

Psychological stimulation may include thoughts of past sexual encounters or other erotic thoughts or fantasies.

During this phase, the pooling of blood in the extremities (this is known as “vasocongestion”) produces erection of the penis and nipples, elevation of the scrotal sac, and swelling of the testes. Just as in women, a man’s heart rate and blood pressure begin to rise, as does muscle tension throughout the entire body.

Plateau Phase

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If stimulation continues, a man will enter the plateau phase, which varies in length, depending on the type of stimulation and his own desires. (Many individuals like to prolong this phase with extended “foreplay.”)

As arousal levels rise, blood pressure, heart rate, respiratory rate, and muscle tension also increase.

Increased blood flow further enlarges the penis and causes the testicles to swell to approximately 50 percent beyond their normal size. The prostate gland becomes larger. The tiny Cowper’s or Bulbourethral glands release a few drops of pre-ejaculatory fluid, a clear, slippery substance which is secreted from the tip of the penis.

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Pre-ejaculate may also contain some live sperm from a previous ejaculation and can get a woman pregnant. Many men also develop a sex flush (redness of skin), predominantly on the chest.

Orgasmic Phase

Orgasm, the release of sexual tension, involves many bodily changes. While no one is really sure how the nervous system or biochemical systems trigger an orgasm, what is known is that physical and psychological factors are important.

Interestingly, physical stimulation of the genitals is not required for an orgasm; some people can have orgasms simply by thinking erotic thoughts.

The feelings of orgasm are usually centered within the penis. The onset of orgasm is accompanied by rhythmic contractions of the seminal vesicles, vas deferens, prostate gland, and ejaculatory ducts. These contractions push the semen into the urethra just prior to ejaculation.

At the actual point of ejaculation, contractions occur along the entire length of the urethra that force the semen out of the body.

The first few contractions are the strongest and occur less than one second apart. These powerful contractions are followed by weaker ones that may last for several more seconds. Contractions of the anal sphincter and of the pelvic floor also occur during this phase.

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Unlike women, men have something known as the “point of imminence.” A few seconds prior to ejaculation a man knows he is going to have an orgasm no matter what. Indeed, one research team fired off a starter-pistol at this “point of imminence” while observing a participant who, despite being extremely startled and distracted, proceeded on course.

Resolution Phase

During the resolution phase, a man’s body returns to an unexcited, relaxed state.

The blood drains from his genitals and his penis returns to a flaccid (soft) state. The testes descend and return to their normal position and size.

Muscle tension throughout his body decreases, his nipples become less erect, and the sex flush (redness of skin) starts to disappear. Heart rate, breathing rate and blood pressure return to normal resting levels.

Refractory Phase

The phases of the human sexual response cycle are similar in men and women, with one exception: Just after orgasm and resolution, a man enters a refractory period.

During this time, no amount of stimulation will cause him to have another ejaculation. In younger men the refractory period typically lasts only a few minutes; in older men, it can last several hours or even days.

Women, on the other hand, have no refractory period which is why they can have multiple orgasms.

Of course, not all sexual encounters lead to orgasm; and sexual satisfaction is not dependent upon reaching orgasm. When couples engage in sexual activities with orgasm as the “goal,” they lose sight of the pleasure in the act itself.

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Good sex is about connecting with a partner and enjoying yourself. Which phases you go through are irrelevant.

Related: How Many Times Can a Guy Cum in an Hour?

2. Understand his Kinks and Fetishes

Learn what turns him on and triggers powerful orgasms. It is easy to make a man cum if you know what turns him on.

Always remember that not all guys have the same fetishes; some are turned on by revealing clothes, others love watching porn while others love to listen to moans.

Incorporate his fetishes into your sex life and you will realize that they are very useful when trying make your man orgasm quick.

Fetish are not easy to talk about, so don’t pressure him let him tell you at his own pace. Have an open mind and try not to be judgmental.

Talk to him and try to understand what makes him tick. Don’t judge him and if you are not comfortable fulfilling his fetish, just let it go.

3. Stroke his Ego

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Foreplay always does the trick.

For men, sex is more than just satisfying his sexual needs it also involves satisfying his ego. While stroking his penis remember to ‘stroke’ his ego too.

Show him that you are more than attracted to him and that his presence alone turns you on. This simple gestures will go a long way in stroking his ego.

How you respond to his touch, the way you moan and your involvement during sex sends subconscious signals to your man that you are/not interested in him or what he is doing.

To him, it is like you are saying that you don’t think highly of him. Don’t get me wrong, some men are lousy when it comes to sex but if there if you can help him become better then go ahead and do it.

If you want him to cum quick, then you will have to respond to his touch, moan and talk dirty. Learn his favorite sex techniques and give it to him the way he likes it. You are guaranteed to have him coming back for more.

4. Oral Sex

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Oral sex is one of the most satisfying ways to make a man cum quick. that’s if you know how to do it right. Good oral sex requires the right technique and knowing how to press the right buttons.

Some love it sloppy while other prefer having their balls stroked in the process. If you do it right, you’ll have your man crying because it feels so good.

Oral sex tips:

  • Saliva- since you are giving him head it is logical that you will use a natural lubricant like saliva. Ask him whether he likes it sloppy or not. Apply a lot of saliva on his penis and suck it while you give him a hand job. Use your hands to stroke his shaft and your mouth to focus on the head of his penis. Flick your tongue on his frenulum, move your tongue in circles around his glans and deep throat him. I don’t think there is any man who can resist such exquisite oral skills. You will have him cumming in no time.
  • Rhythm- let there be coordination between your mouth and your hands. Use your hands to do half the work and your mouth to do the rest. You can jerk him off while sucking him. A penis has three erogenous zones; the shaft, the glans and the frenulum. Work on these three areas and he will come quickly. Also, don’t forget to suck his balls, men love it.


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The idea of having sex with your favorite TV character can be a huge turn on or even submitting to your partner. You see, there are men who prefer women who take control.

You can start by wearing sex costumes, lingerie or latex. For others, pain is a pleasure- the fifty shades kind of kinky.

Role-playing involves creating a new persona and sticking to the persona during the sexual encounter. If you do it right and pick a persona he likes, you are likely to have him close to the edge in no time.

6. Ass play

Most men will rarely agree to this, it doesn’t feel right for most. Therefore, talk to him to make sure he is okay with you playing with his ass.

Spank his ass, grab it and if he is adventurous try playing with his butthole. The most explosive orgasm a man can experience is by pressing the right buttons which are located in his anus

Playing with his butthole will make him cum quicker especially if you combine ass play with sloppy head.

Check our guide on the do’s and don’ts on first time anal as well as our collection of best prostate massage toys here.

7. Give it to him tight

Men love tight pussy, the tight muscles make it hard for them to hold their nut. A man will cum in minutes if your pussy is tight.

It’s alright if your vagina is not as tight as it used to be before you gave birth. Thanks to the continued advancement in medicine, there are ways you can regain your ‘tightness’ without surgery.

You can try Kegel exercises or apply V-Tight Gel– a gel that improves and restores the elasticity of your vagina. For best results, vagina tightening gels are best applied regularly since the results are not permanent.

However, if you combine the gel with Kegel exercises the results will last longer and the best part is that the gel has no side effects.

8. Balls, Balls and more balls

These family jewels are often overlooked during foreplay or oral sex. Balls are also sensitive and if you want to make him cum quick then you might want to play with his balls while giving him head.

Also, suck them a little bit and if possible juggle them in your mouth.

Remember to be gentle, it could turn ugly if you accidentally bite his balls.

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