Every man’s dream is to continue going even after coming but we all know how that goes. Immediately your nut stop flowing your penis becomes soft. You might have lasted for 20 or so minutes but it still doesn’t feel right when your penis softens immediately you ejaculate.
All we want is to pleasure our partners and satisfy them in bed. Women can achieve multiple orgasms and helping them achieve the multiple orgasms by lasting longer is all men want. Men perceive sex different, to them sex is about performance which gauged by how long you can last in bed.
Reasons why men lose their erections after ejaculating
Almost every man wants a bigger penis but what’s more important is getting a hard-on and keeping it for longer. You might have the biggest penis but if you can’t get it up then it’s not really serving its purpose.
To learn how to stay hard after coming you need to understand why men lose their erections. A hard-on develops after sexual stimulation and its sole purpose is penetration. Once it penetrates her, continuous stimulation leads to ejaculation.
Now, this is why everything goes down. After ejaculating your penis has served its purpose thus the brain doesn’t see the need to keep the erection. Also, the desire to continue often decreases after a man reaches his peak.
Both your sexual desire and your erection will go down together and the feeling of wanting to sleep takes over. The way that feeling hits your body, you just can’t resist. Which is why most men often drop on their bed after nutting and immediately fall asleep.
Unlike women, men need to ‘recharge’ every time they ejaculate. The recharge time is known as the refractory period and tends to last for several minutes to several hours depending on the age. The older you are the longer your refractory period will be.
A study conducted by a German university revealed that both women and men release prolactin every time they orgasm. Increased secretion of prolactin after ejaculation prolongs the refractory period, making it hard to retain an erection. Men with lower levels of prolactin can retain their erections without the aid of male enhancements.
Can a man retain his erection after ejaculating?
Yes, it is possible. It will take a lot of exercises, enough sleep, a healthy diet, and less stress but you will eventually get there.
The porn industry has set the bar too high for men. A man can’t cum in less than 5 minutes without being told that he came quick. Now we have to go for 5 or so ‘rounds’ for us to be appreciated. Which is not as easy as women think.
A man has to undergo the refractory period before you can achieve an erection again. And if the refractory period doesn’t kick in immediately, the glans is way too sensitive for another round. Have you ever had a woman touch your glans immediately after ejaculating and you feel like you could jump through the roof because it tickles? There is a way it feels, I just don’t know how to explain it.
Tips for staying hard after coming
1. Change sex positions
Sex positions have a significant impact on sex performance. Some positions could trigger premature ejaculation while others will help you last longer. Changing positions gives you some time to recover before you can proceed. Also, you can train your body to not nut so fast.
If you can control how and when you ejaculate you can also control your erection. The more your body adapts to this, the easy it will be to retain an erection after busting a nut.
If possible learn how to achieve an orgasm without ejaculating. You’ll experience an orgasm without nutting thus retaining your erection.
2. Erectile dysfunction drugs
ED drugs are designed to help men achieve erections. Do you know what that means? It could help you regain your erection.
Ed drugs have a quick recovery time. There are thousands of men who take ED drugs for recreational purposes and not because they have erectile dysfunction problems. Taking such drugs will keep you going even after you cum.
3. Kegel exercises
Have you ever tried to stop your urine flow mid-flow? The process of stopping urine mid-flow uses a muscle known as pubococcygeus- a muscle that can also help you master control over your erection. Learn how to use the pc muscle to control your erection even after ejaculation.
Strengthen your pc muscles and your capacity to control ejaculatory and orgasmic responses through kegel exercises. If you can control your orgasmic responses then you can certainly control when you ejaculate. You can decide when to ejaculate thus skipping the refractory period and retaining your erection.
The key to gaining control is daily exercises and patience. You don’t expect to exercise today and use the trick tomorrow. Patience is key, you get to learn how to control your ejaculatory responses even in high-paced sexual encounters.
4. Check testosterone levels
Testosterone levels have an immense impact on a man’s body function from voice deepening, facial hair growth to sex drive. Testosterone levels are said to go below optimal levels after you hit a certain age. Which is one of the reasons why older men have a very low sex drive.
Younger men in their 20s and 30s can also experience low testosterone levels thus it’s advisable to keep monitoring your levels as it could be the reason why can’t retain an erection after coming. Optimal testosterone levels are associated with shorter refractory periods and could be the key to you retaining your hard-on.
To keep your testosterone levels in check; eat healthily, exercise regularly or take testosterone boosters.
While this talk of cumming quick and staying hard after ejaculating is interesting, it isn’t everything that sex has an offer. If you can last 7-13 minutes of pure penetration, you are more than good enough. Even 3 minutes is acceptable but it’s no excuse for lousy sex. Invest a little bit more time in foreplay and your partner will barely notice if you cum in under 7 minutes.